A Lingam massage is a slow and sensual massage, a space for deep relaxation combined with intimacy.
The term “Lingam Massage” originates from Neo-Tantra and means "male phallus," and it is embedded there within appropriately ritualized and spiritual group sessions.
In the realm of erotic massage, it is used as a synonym for the stimulation of the male genital area with the aim of delaying orgasm and intensifying the climax. Relaxing music and warm ambient lighting accompany the massage, creating an appropriate atmosphere.
At the beginning of a massage, I like to discuss the procedure and your preferences. However, I make sure not to overdiscuss the massage. Most men find it more appealing to know less and to embrace whatever may come.
In the Lingam Massage, there is a division of roles. The masseur takes the lead, and the other person doesn't need to do anything but can completely let go: Close your eyes – take deep breaths – relax and exhale – and perceive the touch of the masseur..
Men often face tremendous performance pressure and are very goal-oriented right from the beginning. A gentle massage without immediately touching the "center" helps to relax and get into the mood. Moreover, one is also entrusting themselves to "strange hands" and needs some time to become familiar with the other person.
From gentle touches with the fingers to a massage using the hands, a tension is slowly and gradually built up. There are different techniques involved. It is essential to follow your intuition as well, so as not to lose the connection with your partner.
Edging refers to the Lingam Massage technique of delaying the climax. A state of arousal is slowly built up, and just before reaching orgasm, the stimulation is slowed down or briefly paused. This practice can be repeated for as many rounds as desired until reaching the point of "no returns."
Many men swear by the all-releasing climax at the end - an intense and satisfying feeling that flows through the whole body.
Giving up control and passively surrendering to what happens is initially very unfamiliar for many men. However, they discover the special quality of being able to hand over the responsibility for the process to a partner, which can be a unique experience.
Wearing a blindfold during the massage allows one to perceive the physical touch of their partner more intensely. Just give it a try. It can be very enticing.
An accompanying stimulation of the nipples is very appealing to some men and is definitely part of the program. However, the desired intensity varies from gentle touches to pinching. It is recommended to clarify this in advance and not to begin immediately.
A cockring can enhance the erection and, above all, intensify sensation. More about this in the article "Cockrings."