Massage for Gay and Bi Men

Lingam Massage

The term “Lingam Massage” is originally used in “Neo-Tantra” and is embedded in spiritual group sessions. The old Indian Sanskrit word “Lingam” refers to the male phallus. In the field of the erotic massage, it is used as a synonym for penis massage, with the aim of delaying orgasm in order to allow more intensity.


Relax – Let go
At the beginning of a massage I like to talk about the procedure and individual preferences, but be careful not to discuss the massage “dead”. Some men also find it more appealing to know less and to get involved with what may come.
Many men are under enormous pressure to perform and are very goal-oriented right from the start. A gentle massage without touching the “center” helps to relax and get into the mood. Dimmed light and soothing music assist to create a relaxed atmosphere.


Hand over control
In the classic lingam massage there is a division of roles. The masseur takes the lead, the other person does not have to do anything – may let himself fall completely – close his eyes – take a deep breath – exhale in a relaxed manner – perceive the touch of the masseur.
Giving up control, passively surrendering to what is happening is at first very unusual for many men. All the more they discover the special quality of handing over the responsibility for the climax to a partner.


Edging – Stop & Go
Edging stands for orgasm control or orgasm delay during the Lingam Massage. Shortly before the orgasm the stimulation will be stopped and paused for a short moment. Afterward, it simply continues. The play can be extended as long as you want. Many men swear by the all-redeeming highlight at the end.


Variation: Synchronize
Some men prefer a mutual lingam massage at the beginning. Both partners caress each other and explore each other’s body and preferences until one partner takes the lead and the other hands over control.

Variation: Blindfold
Wearing a blindfold during the massage allows you to experience the body touches much more intensely.

A few more tips …

Some men are totally into nipple play and it needs to be a part of the program.
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