The term “Lingam Massage” is originally used in “Neo-Tantra” and is embedded in spiritual group sessions. The old Indian Sanskrit word “Lingam” refers to the male phallus. In the field of the erotic massage, it is used as a synonym for penis massage, with the aim of delaying orgasm in order to allow more intensity.
At the beginning of a lingam massage it is beneficial to talk about the procedure and preferences, but be careful not to discuss the massage to death. Sometimes it is good to know less and to get involved with what may come.
In the beginning, it is important to relax and take the time to familiarize oneself. A gentle massage and body touch without touching the “center” also help men to release the performance pressure. Many men are under enormous pressure to perform and are very goal-oriented right from the start or they need quite some time to let go and hand over control. Dimmed light and quiet music assist to create a relaxed atmosphere.
In the classic lingam massage, there is a division of roles in the “giver” and “recipient”. One lets himself fall while the other takes the lead. The task of the recipient is breathing and perceiving. The task of the giver is to take the lead and guide through the massage.
Some men prefer a mutual lingam massage at the beginning. Both partners caress each other and explore each other’s body and preferences until one partner takes the lead and the other hands over control.
Edging stands for orgasm control or orgasm delay during the Lingam Massage. Shortly before the orgasm the stimulation will be stopped and paused for a short moment. Afterward, it simply continues. The play can be extended as long as you want. Many men swear by the all-redeeming highlight at the end.
A few more tips …
Some men are totally into nipple play, put emphasis on mutual lingam massage, or like to explore their voyeuristic side and like to observe their partner.
A cockring can increase the erection and the sensation (more about this in the article cockring.
Wearing a blindfold during the massage allows you to experience the body touches much more intensely.