Massage for Gay and Bi Men

Prostate Massage

The anal region as part of sexuality was long considered taboo, “gay” or “advanced sex” in our culture. Reports about the male G-spot and the corresponding stimulation of the prostate gland as intimate fitness against prostate problems, so to speak, have reduced reservations in many men, even regardless of their sexual orientation.

Why massage the prostate at all?
The prostate is a small walnut-shaped gland located just under the bladder that produces a fluid that transports sperm during ejaculation. The prostate often referred to as the “male G-spot”, is super-sensitive to touch and especially to pressure. By stimulating the prostate, you can experience a long-lasting orgasm.
“It is difficult to describe. But the feeling is more intense than during a normal orgasm. The stimulation also builds up slowly, but it lasts longer and becomes more intense.”

How do I find my prostate?
The best way to locate the prostate is first digitally (with your finger). With some lubricant, insert the finger into the anus. Move the finger towards the stomach and you should be able to feel a walnut-like gland. Do not be worried if you do not find it immediately. Every man is a little different and it can take some practice.
Giving yourself a prostate massage can be an acrobatic challenge. There are numerous prostate tools to create a solo experience. However, the intensity and the experience together with a partner cannot be compared.

Preparation for a prostate massage
The fingernails should be trimmed. The tissue of the anus is sensitive and easily injured. Your fingers themselves should not have any scratches or cuts. Even with proper preparation, all sex involves the transmission of bacteria, and this is even more likely during anal play. I always use a latex glove (a condom around the finger is also sufficient). Cleanliness and hygiene should be a matter of course for both partners.

The 6 phases of a prostate massage


Relax. Relax. Relax.
The first time you do this, your sphincter muscle will have to get used to the fact that a “foreign object” will enter and the “direction of motion” will change and will feel unfamiliar. The muscle will tense or even cramp, even if it is only one finger. This should be possible. It is just messing with your head. That’s all. Take your time. Your partner should not start right away. You have to try out a posture that is comfortable for you. It should be relaxed and maybe not too acrobatic.
I always start with a gentle massage to relax and get you into the mood. Taking on the passive role is very unusual for some men and takes time and confidence.


Make it slick and slippery.
I use almond oil or silicone oil. The latter is very rich and doesn’t smell. First, massage the anus with your finger and penetrate gently until the sphincter relaxes.


First contact.
You stimulate the prostate gland by gently applying pressure to the nearby rectal wall and walnut-like gland with your finger towards the abdominal wall in a circular motion. If it becomes too much, take it down a notch. Give your partner feedback from time to time.


Build up stimulation.
The first signs that you are doing it right are slight “contractions” of your PC muscles and your sphincter – mostly involuntary. You will also notice a slight feeling of fullness and warmth in your rectum and surrounding pelvic area. Notice the increasing tension in the area of your prostate. The contractions behind the pubic bone increase. The feeling of warmth increases. It may feel strange and unfamiliar but stick with it.


Keep going.
After a while, your body may start to shake. It is usually concentrated around the pelvic area and can radiate to the extremities. At this stage, it is important to continue and not to stop. Any change in pressure or pace can cause to lose the moment. Just let it happen.


The peak of emotions.
The feeling of fullness and warmth around your rectum becomes more intense. And very unusual the first time. There is no need to wait for the orgasm. It will happen all by itself. With some practice, it is also possible to experience such an “anal orgasm” without touching the penis.

A prostate massage does not succeed under performance pressure and great effort, but primarily by letting go. The first time you may not find the procedure and the feelings as pleasant as you expect. Most men have to get used to this new experience first. The second time, you will be much more relaxed and do not want to miss it anymore.